الأربعاء، 14 مارس 2012

the stages of grief


According to Elizabeth kubler ross

When we are dying...

Or have suffered a catastrophic loss

We all move through five distinct stages of grief.

We go into denial...

Because the loss is so unthinkable

We can't imagine it's true.

We become angry with everyone

angry with survivors

angry with ourselves.

Then we bargain

We beg, we plead

We offer everything we have.

We offer up our souls.

In exchange

for just one more day.

When the bargaining has failed and

The anger is too hard to maintain

We fall into depression, Despair

Until finally we have to accept

That we have done everything we can.

We let go

We let go and move into acceptance.




Grief may be a thing

we all have in common...

But it looks different on everyone.


It isn't just death we have to grieve.

It's life...

It's loss...

It's change.


And when we wonder

why it has to suck so much sometimes,

has to hurt so bad...

the thing we gotta try to remember

is that it can turn on a dime...?


That's how you stay alive.

when it hurts so much

you can't breathe,

that's how you survive


By remembering that one day,

Somehow...

Impossibly...

It won't feel this way.

It won't hurt this much.


Grief comes in its

own time for everyone

in its own way.


so the best we can do

the best anyone can do

is try for honesty.


the really crappy thing,

the very worst part of grief

is that you can't control it.


The best we can do is try to let

ourselves feel it when it comes

and let it go when we can.


The very worst part is that the

minute you think you're past it

it starts all over again


And always, every time...

it takes your breath away.


there are five stages of grief.

They look different on all of us

But there are always five...


Denial

Anger

Bargainin

Depression

Acceptance


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