When we are dying...
Or have suffered a catastrophic loss
We all move through five distinct stages of grief.
We go into denial...
Because the loss is so unthinkable
We can't imagine it's true.
We become angry with everyone
angry with survivors
angry with ourselves.
Then we bargain
We beg, we plead
We offer everything we have.
We offer up our souls.
for just one more day.
When the bargaining has failed and
The anger is too hard to maintain
We fall into depression, Despair
Until finally we have to accept
That we have done everything we can.
We let go
We let go and move into acceptance.
Grief may be a thing
we all have in common...
But it looks different on everyone.
It isn't just death we have to grieve.
And when we wonder
why it has to suck so much sometimes,
has to hurt so bad...
the thing we gotta try to remember
is that it can turn on a dime...?
That's how you stay alive.
when it hurts so much
you can't breathe,
that's how you survive
By remembering that one day,
It won't feel this way.
It won't hurt this much.
Grief comes in its
own time for everyone
in its own way.
so the best we can do
the best anyone can do
is try for honesty.
the really crappy thing,
the very worst part of grief
is that you can't control it.
The best we can do is try to let
ourselves feel it when it comes
and let it go when we can.
The very worst part is that the
minute you think you're past it
it starts all over again
And always, every time...
it takes your breath away.
there are five stages of grief.
They look different on all of us
But there are always five...